If you have a history of painful sex or vaginismus, finding pleasure and arousal can be a challenge. But a fun way to help your nervous system switch into arousal mode is to spend some time engaging with your body’s specific erogenous zones.
When it comes to pleasure, our bodies are a treasure trove of sensual experiences waiting to be explored. As unique individuals, each of us possesses 30+ erogenous zones that hold the potential to enhance pleasure, elevate foreplay, and create more fulfilling orgasms. When you apply the transformative practice of mindfulness to your sensual erogenous zones you can unlock the full spectrum of pleasure and intimacy.
Embracing mindfulness: a curiosity mindset
Before embarking on the journey of exploring our erogenous zones, it is crucial to cultivate a mindset of curiosity and mindfulness. Mindfulness allows us to be fully present in the moment, embracing each sensation and experience without judgment. By approaching our bodies and pleasure with openness and curiosity, we create a safe and non-judgmental space for exploration.
When you have an explorative and curious mindset towards your body, you unveil and discover new sensations in unique ways. Maybe you thought a a specific area would feel a certain way, but when stimulated or touched by your partner with a mindfulness approach you feel a little tingle of excitement. Or possibly you have a different experience and can now develop a list of areas that suffocate arousal. Spend time mindfully exploring each other’s bodies with an open and curious perspective and watch how new tingles and excitement develop!
Discovering your 30+ erogenous zones
Our bodies are wonderfully diverse, and the 30+ erogenous zones offer a vast landscape of pleasure. These zones encompass both familiar areas and hidden gems that may surprise us. From the lips and neck to the lesser-known erogenous zones like the small of the back and inner elbows, each zone holds its unique potential for pleasure. Here’s a list of 30 various areas to explore, and see what others you can add to this list!
- Breasts and nipples
- Inner wrists
- Lower back
- Inner thighs
- Soles of the feet
- Back of the neck
- Behind the knees
- Inner elbows
- Behind the ears
- Small of the back
- Inner arms
- Pubic mound
- Clitoris (top, bottom, sides…)
- Deep vaginal erogenous zones (once we’re past those vaginismus days)
To fully engage with our erogenous zones, it is important to approach them with intention and sensitivity. Here are some tips to explore and enjoy each zone:
- Start with communication: Whether you are exploring your own body or engaging with a partner, open and honest communication is key. Share your desires, boundaries, and preferences to ensure a consensual and pleasurable experience.
- Take it slow: Slow, deliberate touch allows us to fully experience the sensations of each zone. Whether it’s using your fingertips, lips, or various sensory objects, gentle exploration builds anticipation and heightens pleasure.
- Experiment with different techniques: Each erogenous zone responds differently to touch and stimulation. Try a variety of techniques such as light caresses, kisses, gentle nibbles, or using varying pressure to discover what brings you or your partner the most pleasure.
- Combine erogenous zones: Don’t limit yourself to one zone at a time. Explore combinations, such as kissing the neck while caressing the inner thighs, to create unique and intensified pleasure experiences.
Mindfulness is a powerful tool to amplify the pleasure experienced through our erogenous zones. By focusing our attention on the present moment, we heighten our sensory awareness, allowing us to fully savor each touch, sensation, and connection. Engaging in mindful pleasure can enhance intimacy, deepen connections, and lead to more fulfilling orgasms.
To use mindfulness during intimacy, focus both on what you are feeling with your hands (what you are doing), as well as what you’re feeling on your body (what is being done to you). Take in the sensations- what is the temperature, the texture, the sounds, the pressure, the smells, and tastes. Take it all in and allow your body to absorb and process it, with curiosity and positivity.
A history of sexual pain
In my Mind-Body-Sex Reset Vaginismus program we go deeper into the science of arousal, pleasure, orgasms, and erogenous zones. This is because a history of sexual pain can tarnish our sexual pleasure experience. It takes careful attention to make sure our bodies are primed and ready to safely and effectively engage their pleasure systems to make sex a fun and amazing experience.
If you are experiencing vaginismus, it’s time sex and intimacy became something, well, pleasurable! Schedule a free consult call today to get started on fast-tracking your vaginismus recovery and enjoying sex the way God intended you to!