I’ve said it myself and I hear my clients say it all the time “I’d be perfectly content to go the rest of my life without ever having sex again.” For those who’ve faced vaginismus or painful sex, this statement is all too relatable and understandable. Why would we want to participate in something that …
How To Restore Intimacy When You’re Okay with Never Having Sex Again Read More »
One of the hardest truths for me to believe about myself was that I am a sensual, sexual woman, and God sees this as good. But healing from this distorted view of my sexual design allowed me to progress in healing from vaginismus. Unfortunately ideas like purity culture have perpetuated the idea that sensuality is …
God designed you to be a sensual, sexual woman. And He said that it “was good” Read More »
In the realm of vaginismus, a condition that affects many women worldwide, it is natural to be drawn to the idea of healing solely for the sake of penetrative sex for your partner. The desire to engage in penetrative intercourse and experience a deeper connection with your loved ones is undoubtedly noble and compassionate. However, …
Don’t Heal Your Vaginismus for Him, Heal it for Yourself. Read More »
When it comes to sexual pain, there’s more than meets the eye. Many women come to me uncertain of whether they’re facing Pelvic Floor Hypertonicity or Vaginismus. Understanding these distinct yet connected conditions can help us navigate potential challenges and empower us to seek the right care. Now of course, getting professionally examined for sexual …
Is my Sexual Pain from Vaginismus or a Hypertonic Pelvic Floor? Read More »
When you have vaginismus, intimacy can be a drag. If you’re like I was, you may constantly feel like you’re lacking or doing “consolation prize” sex. However, it’s essential to remember that sexual intimacy encompasses a wide range of experiences beyond penetrative intercourse, all are equally validating and enjoyable (some are much more enjoyable than …
Exploring Alternative Paths to Pleasure for Those with Vaginismus Read More »
If you have a history of painful sex or vaginismus, finding pleasure and arousal can be a challenge. But a fun way to help your nervous system switch into arousal mode is to spend some time engaging with your body’s specific erogenous zones. When it comes to pleasure, our bodies are a treasure trove of …
Have you ever wondered what happens in our bodies during sexual activity? A fascinating study conducted by Cindy M. Meston and published in The American Journal of Cardiology offers valuable insights into the role of our nervous system in sexual arousal. In this article, we’ll explore the complex dance between the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous …
The Inner Workings of Sexual Arousal: How our Nervous System Reacts Read More »
Empowering women to embrace a fulfilling intimate life and reclaim their sexual well-being is a cause that resonates deeply with me. As someone familiar with the challenges presented by vaginismus, I am acutely aware of a significant hurdle that often accompanies this condition: vaginal dissociation. The very notion of disconnecting from a part of ourselves …
Understanding & Recognizing Vaginal Dissociation Read More »
Happy Vagina Awareness Day! Today is the day to celebrate and appreciate one of the most important parts of our bodies: the vagina. Despite being an essential organ for female health and sexuality, vaginas are often shrouded in shame and taboo. But there’s so much more to this amazing part of our anatomy than meets …
Sexuality within marriage is a topic that has been overlooked or miscommunicated by the church for a long time, leading to stigmatization of sex and a lack of education and understanding of sexuality as a whole. However, the Bible speaks incredibly positive about sex in the context of marriage and views it as a gift …
God’s design for sexuality and how we’ve messed it up Read More »
