When we start feeling pain during sex, we are tempted to push through and often end up faking it. And when this happens repeatedly, sex becomes something the body learns to brace for. We often say ‘yes’ when our bodies want us to say no. We smile even when our body is tense or hurting. […]
We’ve all heard (or said) it before: “I just have low libido.” “Our sex drives are just really different.” “I don’t have any desire for sex like he does.” “I don’t really get aroused.” It’s easy to assume that these statements are just the natural differences between men and women when it comes to intimacy.
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As a husband, learning how to encourage and support your wife through painful sex (often called vaginismus) can feel like an overwhelming challenge. It’s not easy seeing someone you love struggle with discomfort, frustration, and fear, and knowing the right way to approach these sensitive issues can often be confusing. But your role in this
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Intimacy in marriage is a gift from God, designed to bring a husband and wife together in a deep, physical, and emotional connection. But what happens when you just don’t feel like being intimate? When it starts to feel like an obligation rather than a joy? When it seems like your body is just a
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Let’s be honest, discussing painful sex with your spouse kinda feels like stepping into an emotional minefield… You worry about disappointing your spouse, feel unsure if your pain is “normal,” and even struggle with guilt for bringing it up at all. It’s an incredibly vulnerable conversation—one that can stir up fears of rejection, misunderstanding, or
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I’ve said it myself and I hear my clients say it all the time “I’d be perfectly content to go the rest of my life without ever having sex again.” For those who’ve faced vaginismus or painful sex, this statement is all too relatable and understandable. Why would we want to participate in something that
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One of the hardest truths for me to believe about myself was that I am a sensual, sexual woman, and God sees this as good. But healing from this distorted view of my sexual design allowed me to progress in healing from vaginismus. Unfortunately ideas like purity culture have perpetuated the idea that sensuality is
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As a loving partner or husband, your role in supporting your wife’s healing journey from vaginismus is invaluable. You are a valuable support system that can come beside her in her recovery and offer her the support, love, and encouragement she needs to keep persevering in this. One crucial aspect of the vaginismus journey is
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When you have vaginismus, intimacy can be a drag. If you’re like I was, you may constantly feel like you’re lacking or doing “consolation prize” sex. However, it’s essential to remember that sexual intimacy encompasses a wide range of experiences beyond penetrative intercourse, all are equally validating and enjoyable (some are much more enjoyable than
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If you have a history of painful sex or vaginismus, finding pleasure and arousal can be a challenge. But a fun way to help your nervous system switch into arousal mode is to spend some time engaging with your body’s specific erogenous zones. When it comes to pleasure, our bodies are a treasure trove of
Sexuality within marriage is a topic that has been overlooked or miscommunicated by the church for a long time, leading to stigmatization of sex and a lack of education and understanding of sexuality as a whole. However, the Bible speaks incredibly positive about sex in the context of marriage and views it as a gift
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