When we start feeling pain during sex, we are tempted to push through and often end up faking it. And when this happens repeatedly, sex becomes something the body learns to brace for. We often say ‘yes’ when our bodies want us to say no. We smile even when our body is tense or hurting. […]
We’ve all heard (or said) it before: “I just have low libido.” “Our sex drives are just really different.” “I don’t have any desire for sex like he does.” “I don’t really get aroused.” It’s easy to assume that these statements are just the natural differences between men and women when it comes to intimacy.
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Intimacy in marriage is a gift from God, designed to bring a husband and wife together in a deep, physical, and emotional connection. But what happens when you just don’t feel like being intimate? When it starts to feel like an obligation rather than a joy? When it seems like your body is just a
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Have you ever felt trapped in cycles of negative thoughts or behavior? We’ve all been there. One tiny trigger—an awkward conversation about intimacy, a hug that felt like it might lead to more—and suddenly, your thoughts and feelings are spiraling. It’s not just frustrating; it’s exhausting. For those dealing with vaginismus, these cycles of negativity
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Experiencing pain or discomfort during penetrative sex can be incredibly frustrating and isolating. Whether it’s vaginismus, a tight pelvic floor, vulvodynia, or any other pelvic floor dysfunction, the physical pain can often lead to a cascade of emotional and relational consequences. What starts as some pain or discomfort can lead to impaired sexual desire, difficulty
Intimacy can be wildly frustrating at times, especially for a woman. Society and culture make it seem like sex should be naturally desirable and enjoyable. And for many of us, we used to have so much desire and strong sex drives, then we got married or experienced some discomfort and BAM! We no longer really
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I’ve said it myself and I hear my clients say it all the time “I’d be perfectly content to go the rest of my life without ever having sex again.” For those who’ve faced vaginismus or painful sex, this statement is all too relatable and understandable. Why would we want to participate in something that
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One of the hardest truths for me to believe about myself was that I am a sensual, sexual woman, and God sees this as good. But healing from this distorted view of my sexual design allowed me to progress in healing from vaginismus. Unfortunately ideas like purity culture have perpetuated the idea that sensuality is
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In the realm of vaginismus, a condition that affects many women worldwide, it is natural to be drawn to the idea of healing solely for the sake of penetrative sex for your partner. The desire to engage in penetrative intercourse and experience a deeper connection with your loved ones is undoubtedly noble and compassionate. However,
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When it comes to sexual pain, there’s more than meets the eye. Many women come to me uncertain of whether they’re facing Pelvic Floor Hypertonicity or Vaginismus. Understanding these distinct yet connected conditions can help us navigate potential challenges and empower us to seek the right care. Now of course, getting professionally examined for sexual
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When you have vaginismus, intimacy can be a drag. If you’re like I was, you may constantly feel like you’re lacking or doing “consolation prize” sex. However, it’s essential to remember that sexual intimacy encompasses a wide range of experiences beyond penetrative intercourse, all are equally validating and enjoyable (some are much more enjoyable than
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If you have a history of painful sex or vaginismus, finding pleasure and arousal can be a challenge. But a fun way to help your nervous system switch into arousal mode is to spend some time engaging with your body’s specific erogenous zones. When it comes to pleasure, our bodies are a treasure trove of
Have you ever wondered what happens in our bodies during sexual activity? A fascinating study conducted by Cindy M. Meston and published in The American Journal of Cardiology offers valuable insights into the role of our nervous system in sexual arousal. In this article, we’ll explore the complex dance between the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous
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Empowering women to embrace a fulfilling intimate life and reclaim their sexual well-being is a cause that resonates deeply with me. As someone familiar with the challenges presented by vaginismus, I am acutely aware of a significant hurdle that often accompanies this condition: vaginal dissociation. The very notion of disconnecting from a part of ourselves
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Happy Vagina Awareness Day! Today is the day to celebrate and appreciate one of the most important parts of our bodies: the vagina. Despite being an essential organ for female health and sexuality, vaginas are often shrouded in shame and taboo. But there’s so much more to this amazing part of our anatomy than meets
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Sexuality within marriage is a topic that has been overlooked or miscommunicated by the church for a long time, leading to stigmatization of sex and a lack of education and understanding of sexuality as a whole. However, the Bible speaks incredibly positive about sex in the context of marriage and views it as a gift
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